One does not simply understand divorce until it happens. Only once the divorce papers are signed, true drama and commotion begins.
Divorce has a huge impact on one’s psychological and emotional state. It affects all parties involved, both men and women and their children.
Did you ever think about the consequences and how they may ruin your life?
Let us help you understand. The facts say:
- Women initiate divorce 50% more than men do
- 90% of all divorced mothers have custody over their children (even those who didn’t win it at court)
- Out of all people under poverty guidelines, 60% are divorced women and children.
- 65% of all divorced mothers receive no child support
- After a divorce, women tend to experience less stress and have better general adjustment than men
- Men remarry more quickly
- Men are more negative about divorce and will try harder to salvage the marriage
Children suffer the most
Each divorce is different in nature, but has almost the same consequences. Two people decide to move on with their lives, but forget about one important thing: what about their children?
No one asks them what they want. Yet they end up with divorced parents, having no choice where to live or with which parent.
They go through a huge change, one that will impact their psychological and emotional development.
Children’s psychological reaction to their parents’ divorce is based on 3 factors:
- Quality of their relation with each of their parents
- Duration and intensity of the conflict
- Parent’s ability to focus on the needs of children in their divorce.
Based on their age, children will react differently. Younger children who are more attached to their parents will suffer a significant blow, and those old enough may even understand why their parents are doing this.
Divorcing while your children are pre or during puberty will definitely leave an impact on them. They may develop depression, frustration, anger issues, and just get hurt in general.
Statistically speaking, boys are more emotional than girls, and are prone to showing anger and frustration. Some children even experience severe headaches, stomachaches, eating disorders and insomnia.
Either way, if you are going through a divorce, you may want to hire an attorney. Legal representation will help you get a fair divorce, and protect you from losing everything to your spouse.
If you are looking to Divorce in Thousand Oaks, we suggest you speak with one of our attorneys to get proper counsel and guidance. Our attorneys are skilled in representing individuals going through divorce, and may instruct you on how to behave children-wise.
Struggling over child custody?
In the end, both of you may struggle over the custody. This is one of the biggest issues, one that truly creates disastrous consequences. Your children will just there, and watch how both of their parents fight each other, insult each other and hurt each other.
Fighting over Child Custody shouldn’t be like that. If you and your spouse cannot make a deal, each side should hire an attorney and solve it in court.
It is important to think about your children and what they want. Don’t neglect their desires, and talk to them as much as you can. They need you both, now more than ever.
Law Offices of Stephanie L. Mahdavi 